Am I being out of line asking my wife for two things?

It's too much to ask ONLY if she won't agree with it. After 17 years you should know her and she should know you. What you might suggest is a compromise. . . a trim between the legs and work from there. You may not get your way. . . but that doesn't change the facts of a good marriage (although it may frustrate it some). My agreeing that it is not unreasonable will not change her mind. Compromises might work. Ask her what she might want if you get what you want. You may not win but the communication may bring out what the challenges are there. Whatever you do, don't go looking somewhere else for what you want. Good luck